Do Guys Really Appreciate a Woman with Natural Hair?

The other day I was racing down the escalator in hopes to catch the train that usually comes around 5 before it left, it was a Friday evening and I was over work and anything that went along with it. As I took a break mid way down the escalator a guy approaches me and says “please keep your hair natural, it’s beautiful”. I wasn’t expecting that, but I said “thanks” and assured him that I wouldn’t change the natural state of my hair. I was flattered to come across a guy that appreciated a woman with natural hair. I’d been approached by guys before that were completely mesmerized by my natural hair and were so mesmerized that they would like to touch and run their fingers through my coily hair. Then you come in contact with guys who are just as equally mesmerized, but are quick to ask you to straighten your hair. These are the guys I dread meeting.  Anyone who has gone through the natural hair process rather it's via transitioning or the big chop, realizes it can be an emotional journey. For me I was not use to not having my hair touch my back so when someone would compliment my hair, but then turn around and say, “It would look so much better straightened” it was like an emotional setback.  Thankfully, I’m at a place where I honestly don’t care how one wants my hair, I rock it how I like to which is not straightened but in the natural state. As a woman I feel we shouldn't change the way our hair looks to appease the likes of some guy or a job for that matter.

 Being natural for me and many other women isn’t some trend that we’ve decided to be a part of, but rather a lifestyle. This is who we are. Men have their preference and are entitled to that, but fellas if you approach a woman that has natural don’t insist that she would look better if her hair was straightened.

So I have to ask, fellas what are your thoughts on women with natural hair. Do you find it more or less attractive?


Britt Daise
Urban Echelon Magazine & Blogspot

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